I came across an interesting quote in a newsletter from 2000 by a member of the University of Florida campus NOW chapter during a reelection campaign:
Feminism doesn’t mean “be nice,” I would like more open debate. All these appeals to sisterhood-just because you don’t agree with somebody doesn’t mean you don’t like the person. It’s a thing that we need to work out. “Be nice” - I don’t like that idea. We want to be a united front but we also don’t want to crush each other with everyone trying to be nice to everybody.